Writen as a final task on English II subject
under the theme of La Donna :
~- Career Woman in Marriage -~
Do you see marriage coming at you with the same anticipation like
you usually reserve for a final test? Bravo! But for you guys, if you
are who grumpy about either marrying a career woman or not your
challenge is to reconsider about the essence of a good marriage. In
fact, not every woman with career has to face divorce as not every man
who married non-career woman are happier. Career woman can also have a
stable marriage. So how well career and marriage mix?
There are many stereotypes for career woman. They are more likely to
get divorced, unhappy if they make more money than their couple, and
less likely to have children. And if they do have kids, they are more
likely to be unhappy about it for blocking their career path or simply
have depressed causing. Most of these theories are reasonable and
generally well-researched. But the reasons for women to have a career
make a wider point of view for how a stable marriage can be made.
For some women it is quite hard to choose between have a career or
not. There are women who relieved their shining career to take care
their husband and children – if there is no financial problem. In the
other side, some women have to work despite of their willingness to
stay at home playing with children and waiting for husband. Those are
continual dilemmas because career is not always for economic reasons
but also related to woman self-actualization and socialize-with-other
necessity.
Rocky marriage which ends in divorce is the prime myth for career
women. It seems that career woman have a higher rate of divorce because
of they can. While woman who are financially dependent on their husband
do not have the choice to divorce until they become financially viable.
Those basic ideas are sound. But look closely to the women with healthy
careers. They remain married because of satisfaction with the state of
their relationship rather than dependency. Since marriage is a solemn
and yet a simple contract, it means that career women are able to keep
their happy marriage as long as they play their part in their
respective fields well. Besides, modern marriage is a two-way street.
Men should own up to their responsibilities too. Not only fulfilling
family’s basic needs but also ready for developing his wife potencies.
Another reason why women should have career is because the career
itself may gives a lot of knowledge which will improve mother’s quality
and brighter insight to educate their children. Since this world is the
place where our kids will belong, it’s become one of women duty to
introduce what on earth is going on as far as they could. Mixing career
with marriage means keeping it connected by giving good influence one
to another. Simply said a family also takes a role for woman’s career
as they need a harmonic family to support it.
As you ponder these reasons, know that there is no right or wrong.
You have to accept quirks as part of the give-and-take process. It’s a
matter of responsibility and acceptance of the difference on how each
has chosen to live his/her life. And for you gals, try looking inside
yourselves and prepare for both of your family and career futures. ***
PS : i still mind for
the paragraphs that ain’t in good coherence enough as a narative essay,
unwell structured, and met failure in emphasizing the thesis statement
briefly. But when ‘a stop’ was compulsory, it was a mighty good feeling
^___^ Yeah!
